Far too many people are stuck in victim mode and the "to me" mindset.
In this mindset, you're thinking everything in the world happens "to me." This mindset is so damaging because it takes all of your own agency out of the situation, and it puts you into a state of being where you do not believe you have control over anything.
The key to getting out of victim mode is to start seeing that the world is happening "for you" rather than "to you." Everything, good, bad, and difficult, is there to help you to grow into the person you're supposed to become.