Ryan Michler is the founder and creator of the Order of Man Podcast. He is leading a movement to create better men who are stepping more fully into their roles as men.
About this Episode
Like many boys in our society, I never had a dad while I was growing up. Though my mother did absolutely everything she could for my sister and myself, not having a male mentor in my life definitely had an impact.
There was a lot that I had to figure out for myself, and it really wasn't until I joined the Marine Corps that I learned the value of responsibility and leadership.
In our society, the value of masculinity is increasingly being called into question. Boys are growing into manhood without ever really having to face actual challenges, and society is paying the price for it.
Ryan Michler has led the fight to uphold the values of masculinity, and he's continued that fight with his Legacy event. This is a three day challenge where fathers and sons learn new skills, forge deeper bonds, and create the framework to grow and find success as men.
To learn more about Ryan and the Order of Man Podcast: http://www.orderofman.com.
We often hear about things like survivors' guilt and imposter syndrome in the veteran community, but rarely do we explore why we experience them or where they come from.
To tackle this issue, I've brought on Andrew Merrell, LMFT. Andrew is a therapist who works with men in the public eye who are struggling with their identities under the pressures of prestige and fame.
Andrew's perspective on this is valuable because he deals with men every day who do not feel like they deserve what they have. For veterans transitioning into the civilian world after experiencing the death of friends, this is a familiar feeling.
Many veterans enter their civilian lives with the feeling that they do not belong. For some, this can be a feeling of guilt due to the fact that they lost friends in combat. For others, it can feel as if they are impersonating someone else by trying to fit into a new identity.
As Andrew mentions, these are two separate phenomena, but both have an impact.
To Learn more about Andrew: http://aimpsychotherapy.com/andrewmerrell
Mike Kollin is an elite dating and relationship coach that specializes in communication between men and women. He is also the author of Crack the Female Code and Get the Girl, Keep the Girl.
According to Mike, men and women often have trouble communicating because their brains are wired differently. While men are mostly left-brain thinkers, women think more with their right-brains. This can lead to errors in communication and complete breakdowns in relationships.
Mike's ideas are eye-opening, particularly for us men who can't quite figure out how women are thinking.
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Toxic masculinity is a term that's been thrown around a lot over the past few years, generally in very liberal circles.
For some reason, there is an idea out there that exhibiting male attributes is a bad thing. Mike and I decided to tackle this issue and have a discussion about whether or not this term is a myth.
Featuring Mike Ergo from the Transitions from War Podcast.